We reminisce upon past replaying & unwittingly relishing stories of victimhood over and over again. Bored out of our minds we keep gathering self pity that we have never truly been understood & have suffered incomparable pain. Looking upon the world with jaded eyes we almost demand a certificate of wisdom & spirituality in return
Is this painful yet delicious self deception necessary? Does it serve any purpose? Or has it just become a convenient emotion to compensate for ‘failings’ in life – a way to blame everything outside. We need to ask is our personal ‘hurt’ an emotional blanket that we cover ourselves in to ‘protect’ ourselves from any further disappointments? All these collected ‘lessons’ that we carry in our heads will they serve any purpose or benefit anyone?
If going through a heartbreak, death, or other painful emotions have not made us kinder, compassionate and more open to others then haven’t we have just wasted it all away? As Elie Wiesel, the Nobel Laureate, writes: “Suffering confers neither privileges nor rights. It all depends on how you use it. If you use it to increase the anguish of yourself or others, you are degrading, even betraying it. Yet the day will come when we shall understand that suffering can also elevate human beings
People we admire such as Gandhi, Mandela, Martin Luther King understood this and used it to alleviate the sufferings of others. It will be truly remarkable when the awareness of this pauses us in the midst of a breakdown and we ask how can I benefit someone ? Lotus Seed