Self-importance hurts us

It is possible to move through the drama of our lives without believing so earnestly in the character that we play. That we take ourselves so seriously, that we are so absurdly important in our own minds, is a problem for us. We feel justified in being annoyed with everything. We feel justified in denigrating... Continue Reading →

I’m getting more neurotic

Sometimes people will say, "This meditation thing isn't working at all. I'm not getting calmer, I'm getting more neurotic!" But our neurosis is not increasing - it's the awareness of our neurosis that is increasing. This is actually progress! When Things Fall Apart Quotes:- Pema Chodron

We may feel that we are unworthy

In our culture, people find it difficult to direct loving-kindness to themselves. We may feel that we are unworthy, or that it’s egotistical, or that we shouldn’t be happy when other people are suffering. So rather than start loving-kindness practice with ourselves, which is traditional, I find it more helpful to start with those we... Continue Reading →

The nature of interconnectedness

You know that your happiness and suffering depend on the happiness and suffering of others. That insight helps you not to do wrong things that will bring suffering to yourself and to other people. If you try to help your father to suffer less, you have a chance to suffer less. If you are able... Continue Reading →

Make ourselves big enough

"But life is not something that happens to us. We can't separate ourselves from the constant stream of experience we call our life. We are not victims of our life, and we are not unworthy of our life either. Life is not too beautiful or divine for us. It is not too big or painful... Continue Reading →

There is another way

Instead of making others right or wrong, or bottling up right and wrong in ourselves, there's a middle way, a very powerful middle way...... Could we have no agenda when we walk into a room with another person, not know what to say, not make that person wrong or right? Could we see, hear, feel... Continue Reading →

Awakened Heart

As long as you are alive, you will feel fear. It is an intrinsic part of your world, as natural as a bitter cold winter day or the winds that rip branches off trees. If you resist it or push it aside, you miss a powerful opportunity for healing and freedom. When you face your... Continue Reading →

Lesson from a broken heart

An analogy for bodhichitta is the rawness of a broken heart. Sometimes this broken heart gives birth to anxiety and panic; sometimes to anger, resentment and blame. But under the hardness of that armour there is the tenderness of genuine sadness. This is our link with all those who have ever loved. This genuine heart... Continue Reading →

The Middle Way

The Middle Way experience takes us altogether beyond thinking in extremes—beyond our usual assumptions about the world. It does not suggest we reject suffering to seek a nirvana elsewhere. It does not advise us to leave our ordinary functional life and enter a “spiritual” one instead. It does not affirm the existence of things, and... Continue Reading →

All thoughts are the same

"In the practice of meditation, all thoughts are the same: pious thoughts, very beautiful thoughts, religious thoughts, calm thoughts - they are all still thoughts. You do not try to cultivate calm thoughts and suppress so-called neurotic thoughts. This is an interesting point. When we speak of treading the path of the dharma, which is... Continue Reading →

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