What then is satisfaction?

When you were a child you loved and craved ice-cream, chocolate and cake, and thought, “When I grow up, I’ll have all the ice-cream, chocolate and cake I want; then I’ll be happy.” Now you have as much ice-cream, chocolate and cake as you want, but you’re bored. You decide that since this doesn’t make... Continue Reading →

Renunciation mind

Renunciation mind is very simple in a way: we have renunciation mind when we realise that all this is not a big deal. Somebody steps on your toe – what’s the big deal? The more we get used to this notion, the more we have renunciation mind. Renunciation somehow has this connotation of giving something... Continue Reading →

Passing scenery

"The towns and countryside that the traveler sees through a train window do not slow down the train, nor does the train affect them. Neither disturbs the other. This is how you should see the thoughts that pass through your mind when you meditate." Kyabje Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche

Arbitrary nature of relationships

Usually we have very strong emotions towards these three groups of people. We are attached to our friends and dear ones, hostile towards enemies and those we dislike or fear, and apathetic towards strangers. To develop equanimity, we contemplate that these three categories are made up by our own mind. It's our mind that discriminates... Continue Reading →

My attachment to appreciation

Once, while I was in retreat, the thought came to me very strongly "I will go to the ends of the earth to seek appreciation!" the thought was so clear and stark, and I saw that in many ways I have done that in my life. Having a glimpse of the depth of my attachment... Continue Reading →

We are the nuisance

In reality, nothing can save us from a state of chaos or confusion unless we have acknowledged it and actually experienced it. Otherwise, even though we may be in the midst of chaos, we don’t even notice it, although we are subject to it. On the path of meditation, the first real glimpse of our... Continue Reading →

Others want same as me

The practice of loving-kindness and compassion toward others essentially involves cultivating the recognition that all living creatures want to feel whole, safe, and happy. All you have to do is remember that whatever’s going on inside someone else’s mind is the same thing that’s going on in yours. When you remember this, you realize that... Continue Reading →

Liberation lies within

If we cease looking, searching, what are we left with? We’re left with what’s been right there at the center all the time. Underneath all that searching there is distress. There is unease. The minute that we realize that, we see that the point isn’t the search, but rather the distress and unease which motivate... Continue Reading →

A difficult undertaking

The realization of where our dukkha comes from must be followed by the understanding that disliking it will not make it go away; only letting go of wanting makes dukkha disappear, which means unequivocal acceptance. Accepting oneself results in being able to accept others. The difficulty with other people is that they present a mirror... Continue Reading →

Let go of controlling

Start to notice all the ways that you try to control the world. How do you try to get others to do what you want them to do? How do you try to control your own feelings and mind states, with or without intoxicants? How do you rebel against being told what to do or... Continue Reading →

Keep practicing surrender

The biggest question is can we accept the past and surrender to the present? Intellectually, we might be ready to say "I’m ready to do it." In the realm of experience, this can be quite challenging to do regardless of having patchy and momentary peace, especially, during meditation. In my understanding, there is no true... Continue Reading →

Everyone wants to be happy

So we need to begin by reducing our self-focus and self-important thoughts. To do so, we remind ourselves that we aren't the only ones who want to be happy - everyone wants to be happy. Though others seek happiness, they may not understand how to go about accomplishing it, whereas if we have some understanding... Continue Reading →

Don’t meet anger with anger

When someone insults us, we usually dwell on it, asking ourselves, ‘Why did he say that to me?’ and on and on. It’s as if someone shoots an arrow at us, but it falls short. Focusing on the problem is like picking up the arrow and repeatedly stabbing ourselves with it, saying, ‘He hurt me... Continue Reading →

Integrating stillness with movement

Meditation doesn‘t always mean sitting somewhere with eyes closed. That is just one way to do meditation. It means you are working with the experience of emptiness. If through this experience you develop knowledge of contemplation, your practice may really become true Contemplation - but if it does not, you just remain in that state... Continue Reading →

Meditation thief

When thoughts come while you are meditating, let them come; there's no need to regard them as your enemies. When they arise, relax in their arising. On the other hand, if they don’t arise, don't be nervously wondering whether or not they will. Just rest in their absence. If big, well-defined thoughts suddenly appear during... Continue Reading →

Going beyond samsara

Most people feel cozy enough in samsara. They do not really have the genuine aspiration to go beyond samsara; they just want samsara to be a little bit better. It is quite interesting that “samsara” became the name of a perfume. And it is like that. It seduces us into thinking that it is okay:... Continue Reading →

Happiness lies within

One of the advantages of being born in an affluent society is that if one has any intelligence at all, one will realize that having more and more won't solve the problem, and happiness does not lie in possessions, or even relationships: The answer lies within ourselves. If we can't find peace and happiness there,... Continue Reading →

Impermanence is everywhere

Consider that everything you possess at this moment is, by its very nature, guaranteed not to be yours. Sooner or later, every relationship you have is guaranteed to dissolve. Everything that lives will die; everything that is created eventually will be destroyed. If impermanence is the true nature of reality, this is all the more... Continue Reading →

Within one’s own mind

We talk about the Dharma, the teachings of the Buddha, and all these instructions and methods of practice we can do and benefit from. But in essence, to find Dharma one has to look inward, not outward. One has to constantly exert effort in examining oneself and one’s own mind. Of course, there are methods... Continue Reading →

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