We learn by making mistakes

To understand the truth of Dukkha is actually to understand mind's neurosisOf course we have made mistakes. Of course we have not been very skillful. Of course we have made ourselves and the people around us suffer. But that does not prevent us from improving, from transforming, from beginning anew.To begin anew is to look... Continue Reading →

Creating happiness is an art

Learn to nourish yourself and your loved ones with joy. To love someone means to understand them. It means knowing how to bring them joy and happiness in concrete ways. If you act skillfully, your words and actions will make the other person feel fresh and light. Sometimes a kind word or two are enough... Continue Reading →

Transitory nature of beings

It can be difficult to accept others and to accept ourselves. "I should be better. I should be something different. I should have more." All of this is conception; it's all mental fabrication. It's just the mind churning up "shoulds," "ought tos," and "supposed tos." All this is conceptual rubbish, and yet we believe it.... Continue Reading →

Defending viewpoints

This is something we must learn through meditation — that it is impossible to be absolutely right. Most of the time all we are doing is defending a viewpoint, which is based on our own ego. Because we have this ego, the "me" delusion, all our viewpoints, all our opinions are colored by that. They... Continue Reading →

The workings of cause and effect

Even if we are not able to study all the different scriptures and teachings, we must understand the essence of the spiritual path...And that is to bring about happiness. True happiness only arises from within the mind. How do we obtain this happiness of the mind? Do we obtain this happiness through money or wealth... Continue Reading →

What do I know for certain

This one question—"What do I know for certain?"—is tremendously powerful. When you look deeply into this question, it actually destroys your world. It destroys your whole sense of self, and it's meant to. You come to see that everything you think you know about yourself, everything you think you know about the world, is based... Continue Reading →

I have a Buddha nature

Sometimes when we are alone, we have thoughts such as "Oh, I am a failure". I cannot do anything right! I am worthless, no wonder nobody loves me!This low self esteem is one of our biggest hindrances on the path to full awakening. We live with ourselves 24/7 but we don't even know who we... Continue Reading →

Eating poison

When I was introduced to the subject of mental afflictions, I thought, 'Oh no, I'm flawed. I'm ignorant. I have a lot of attachments and aversions. I'm stuck with unhappiness for the rest of my life.' But then I heard an old proverb. I don't know if it's based on fact, but it goes something... Continue Reading →

Shifting our perspective

The modern world has become infatuated with the practice of meditation. Smiling meditators grace the covers of magazines. CEOs are bringing mindfulness into the workplace. We’re even teaching children to meditate at school. Seeing all the images and hearing the stories, it would be easy to think that the point of meditation is simply to... Continue Reading →

Meditation on nonself

A friend of mine has been taking care of her ninety-three-year-old mother. The doctors say that her mother will die any day. For more than a year, my friend has been teaching her mother meditation exercises that have been very helpful. She began by watering the seeds of happiness in her mother, and now her... Continue Reading →

The feelings trap

We may believe that if we can act just right, then our stream of feelings will always be pleasant and there will be no pain, no loss. So when a painful experience arises we often try to get rid of it, and when a pleasant experience arises we try to grasp it. When a neutral... Continue Reading →

We are not alone

One of the most difficult things about hard times is that we often feel that we are going through them alone. But we are not alone. In fact, your life itself is only possible because of the thousands of generations before you, survivors who have carried the lamp of humanity through difficult times from one... Continue Reading →

Everyone is precious

Often we see other sentient beings as hassles: "This mosquito is disturbing me. Those politicians are corrupt. Why can't my colleagues do their work correctly?" and so on. But when we see sentient beings as being more precious than a wish-fulfilling jewel, our perspective completely changes. For example, when we look at a fly buzzing... Continue Reading →

Real freedom

In a Buddhist sense, real freedom is not about having the ability to act on any impulse that comes into our mind. True freedom means not being enslaved by anger, clinging, craving, resentment, spite, and so on. True freedom is being able to direct our mind to any virtuous object without any interference whatsoever from... Continue Reading →

Friend within

To ease loneliness we first need to find friends within ourselves. We can start by connecting with our own positive qualities, such as love and compassion. We can learn to treasure and value these inner qualities and draw our strength from them first and foremost.These qualities are our inner conditions for interdependence and are our... Continue Reading →

What is Nirvana?

Enlightenment, or Nirvana, is nothing other than the state beyond all obstacles, in the same way that from the peak of a very high mountain one always sees the sun. Nirvana is not a paradise or some special place of happiness, but is in fact the condition beyond all dualistic concepts, including those of happiness... Continue Reading →

Salt of suffering

An aging master grew tired of his apprentice’s complaints. One morning, he sent him to get some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master told him to mix a handful of salt in a glass of water and then drink it.“How does it taste?” the master asked.“Bitter,” said the apprentice.The master chuckled and then asked... Continue Reading →

Completely fed up

"In Tibetan there's this interesting word: ye tang che. The YE part means "totally, completely" and the rest of it means "exhausted." Altogether ye tang che means totally tired out. We might say "totally fed up" It describes an experience of compete hopelessness, of completely giving up hope. This is an important point. This is... Continue Reading →

It’s all right to be you

Don't worry about how your emotions compare to someone else's. You can't tell anyway, because everyone's unique. We're all neurotic in our own ways. What really matters is your own experience and what you think. You have to be honest with yourself. But no matter how difficult your situation seems to you, it's who you... Continue Reading →

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