Don’t worry about how your emotions compare to someone else’s. You can’t tell anyway, because everyone’s unique. We’re all neurotic in our own ways. What really matters is your own experience and what you think. You have to be honest with yourself. But no matter how difficult your situation seems to you, it’s who you are, and you have to deal with it. No one else can do it for you. No one else can be you, with the particular emotional challenges you face. But that’s all right. Everyone has their own weird trips, worries, and crazy thoughts. Your baggage isn’t better or worse, it’s just yours. It’s what you have to work with, so whoever you are is fine.
The end result of working with your emotions might just be that realization: it’s all right to be you. There doesn’t need to be a new, improved model of you. Despite all your emotional turmoil and slipups, your true self doesn’t need to be debugged, reprogrammed, or replaced
Dzogchen Ponlop Rinpoche