Keeping our heart and mind open

Keeping our heart and mind open to experiences of compassion should not depend on being able to do something about another person's suffering. Feeling compassion is a powerful exercise for the mind, whether or not anything can be done to help. Understanding that compassion is a practice of the mind first and foremost, with the... Continue Reading →

Step out of emotion

It is important to learn to simply relax with intense feelings such as depression, insecurity, or fear. There is no need to label them “no good” or “unpleasant” and no need to get rid of them. Just let them be. This is much simpler and more effective than trying to avoid fear or get rid... Continue Reading →

Become a researcher

Pain can be a better revealer of your own mind than any other state. Sometimes pain is really a great ally for you to discover certain defects in your mind. Pain sometimes can serve as an illuminator. People think, “Oh, I’m not very arrogant; I don’t feel so arrogant; I don’t think I see myself... Continue Reading →

Wisdom must serve as medicine

Even if we know a lot about Dharma, we still need to integrate our knowledge with our experience or we won’t be able to reduce our habit of me and mine. Wisdom must serve as medicine; it’s ineffective if it never counteracts our poison or illness. An intellectual knowledge of Dharma is not enough; we... Continue Reading →

Understanding chyoshe

Consider this: whomever we think is close to us now, and for whom we have warm feelings toward now, all these relations will eventually change. By the same token, someone who we feel aggression towards now, could later become close. Relationships always change. So that aggression, just as much as our attachments, has no permanent,... Continue Reading →

Fundamental nature of the human heart

All people have enlightened nature. Everyone’s hearts are innately imbued with tsewa*. Why not cherish what you have in common with all beings rather than make yourself insecure by trying so hard to be special, somehow better than everyone else? If you can enjoy being ordinary, you’ll be free from the insidious, unrelenting pain of... Continue Reading →

We only need this heart

When it is warm with tenderness and affection toward others, our own heart can give us the most pure and profound happiness that exists and enable us to radiate that happiness to others. That happiness is right here within us. It is not something on the outside for which we need to search and strive.... Continue Reading →

You are special like everyone else

All people have enlightened nature. Everyone’s hearts are innately imbued with tsewa. Why not cherish what you have in common with all beings rather than make yourself insecure by trying so hard to be special, somehow better than everyone else? If you can enjoy being ordinary, you’ll be free from the insidious, unrelenting pain of... Continue Reading →

Striking a balance

When you practice compassion, don't "feel" the pain. When you feel the pain, you don't have any space left to practice compassion to anybody. Whenever you practice compassion keep very detached, with attachment...do you understand? This takes balance. "Compassion is something you hold, equanimity is how you detach." Without these two together, only holding, holding,... Continue Reading →

Sanity beyond habitual reactions

If we’re not too confused or hard on ourselves, we will discover the sanity beyond habitual reactions. Identifying less with habits and more with our basic nature lightens things up. With more space in our mind, we take our reactions less seriously. We can watch them the way we would watch children at play—knowing they... Continue Reading →

Not bound

The notion of enlightenment means "not bound". Not bound to what? Not bound to one's own mind in ordinary ways; not bound in confusion to all the suffering that one’s mind has produced and is experiencing. So the notion of enlightenment is not something outside of one's own mind.We cannot imagine achieving enlightenment, let alone... Continue Reading →

Our excuses are simply tactics

Sometimes people say, “I’m not really angry, but this is happening to me and that’s happening to me, and it’s not right.” We can say these words and claim not to be angry while continuing to chew on our resentment. Even the best excuse will not relieve or lessen the pain of a disturbed heart.... Continue Reading →

Choose one

People often think that the whole point of doing anything or becoming anything in life, is to be noticed by others.When we look at our minds, a lot of the time we are just trying to make impressions on others, rather than simply trying to be at peace, or trying to tend to our own... Continue Reading →

Feeling others suffering

The more open our heart is, the more we feel others suffering as our own. But that doesn’t mean we feel depressed and despondent. The suffering of others doesn’t weigh us down because we are buoyed by the warmth of our tenderness toward them. For someone who is guided by bodhichitta, the wish to benefit... Continue Reading →

Practice letting go daily

Letting go of small things is important in order to learn how to let go of large things. We can practice letting go daily. In conversations with someone who has a different point of view, we can let go of our point of view. Or perhaps we might be attached to wanting to be good... Continue Reading →

A homeless prince

Grasping to a non-existent self, we misread our world and lose the true treasure of our mind. Because of our belief in a self that must be preserved at all costs, ego controls our every mental, emotional, verbal, and physical act. Although our wisdom mind is completely radiant at all times, we become like a... Continue Reading →

When your heart is stretched

Whenever the heart is stretched painfully we know we are growing in the right direction. This is because the essence of bodhicitta is to uproot our holding on to the self - trying to cherish and protect it. When this challenging stretch happens we then have room to replace this self-importance with love for all... Continue Reading →

Nurturing our heart

Buddhahood comes from bodhisattvas because a Buddha has to become a bodhisattva first. Where does the bodhisattva come from? The bodhisattva comes from bodhicitta. And where does bodhicitta come from? Bodhicitta comes from compassion. So, the root of all of this, when you trace it, is compassion...and compassion comes from nurturing our warm and tender... Continue Reading →

Where do Buddhas come from?

The sutras ask, where do the Buddhas come from? And the answer in the sutras is, they come from ego. What does this mean? This means that realization comes from our ability to expand our sense of self-care and longing for happiness to include others. This is the business of a bodhisattva- Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

Courage is openness

Someone asked me recently if I am afraid to die. Truthfully, I am more afraid of not living my life fully — of living a life dedicated to cherishing and protecting myself. This fear-driven approach to life is like covering your couch in plastic so it won’t get worn. It robs you of the ability... Continue Reading →

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